1. Respect His Plans and Schedule By Communicating
Boys need training and communication about your schedule and plans. We all can get a little testy when some new thing is sprung on us, don't we? “We’re going to the store! Get on your shoes!” Some kids might do just fine…but others… maybe they just got their lego town all set up, or they were planning to play outside next. Massive meltdown ensues… Its worth it to learn to communicate well with your boys (& girls) and they will learn, from your example, a life skill that will benefit them their whole life.
1. Communication usually increases cooperation.
“Hey, guys! We are going to go get groceries when the timer goes off. We aren’t going to buy any toys or candy, but at walmart we can get a cookie if the lady is there with the stickers. How does that sound?”
C2. Communication can pull their mind forward and give them a sense of next.
Our Heath went thru a phase where he hated rest time…one day I said, “After your nap you’re going to feel really happy and we’re going to go outside…” It was like a hook that pulled him forward to the next happy feeling past his distress about leaving all the action of the older kids. (I'll remember to use that tool again!)
3. Communication feels very respectful - you esteem your child and their activity enough to explain.
Because you’re an adult you know that getting groceries is crucial to supper that evening, but all they can see is their Lego plans. Communication can help ease and smooth transitions in your days.
4. Communication allows you to honor their plans and schedule by giving them choices as well.
Leaving store: “When we get home we’re going to have some lunch…would you like peanut butter and jelly or grilled cheese sandwich?”
“After lunch why don’t we read a couple books before naptime. What would you like me to read to you?”
Choices let them practice Control. Control is a real need for boys. And that’s good, right? You want them to feel the responsibility to control themselves and their environment (to some degree) later on in life. They need practice doing that now, with your guidance.
Interestingly, even as babies, my boys have been much more peaceful with a predictable, simple schedule…